dealing with a loss

Life is so full of complications and therefore it is full of solutions.  This positive thinking is usually enough to keep me optimistic and productive, but there are also occurrences about which we are helpless to act upon.

What do I say to the child of a parent has just passed away,  what do you do about  the final part of a life.  How easy it is to say just carry on -- "they would want you to enjoy yourself" -- "she/he lead a good life and we must remember the good things."  Everything said is meant to help, but only time makes the pain lessen and there really is no solution to this sad, yet inevitable part of life. With the passing of someone there is amazing grief  witnessing the sadness of the people you love the most.  It rips the heart to see your own children so deeply distressed, yet we are powerless to truly make everything alright.   

Be happy there are people who love you

Grasp at the chance to help the living--love and adore you kids--smile at strangers--and observe the wonder all around you, for it will not always be there.  Change happens--the circle of life is filled with every emotion and with every pain and joy.